95 Birthdays

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Four years ago today we celebrated what would be my grandmother’s last birthday – her 95th. Twenty-three days later it was my name she called out when she took her final breath.


There’s a certain kind of determination that the elderly exude. And it’s something you can only observe from their movements, their choices, and their intentions. They’ve seen life, death and everything in between yet their optimism continues to survive.

As for grandparents, they are like parents… but they’re friends too. They keep your secrets, offer the best advice, and teach you how to never let your guard down. They have a pretty good sense of judgement when it comes to character, and have a talent for renewing your faith when it feels like the world has failed you. The size of your problem is never questioned – the fact that you’re upset calls for their undivided attention.


So when I was forced to part ways with my first best friend, I soon had to learn to accept that I will never know what she wanted to say in that moment.

In each elderly person’s eyes I see my grandmother, and I’m compelled to help where I can… it’s like a silent pull, and I can almost feel my grandmother’s nod of approval.

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4 Responses

  1. The Tezzy Files

    Happy Birthday to your lovely Grandmother. Your words gave me goosebumps. I lost my loving granny last year, also in her 90’s and was not fortunate enough to be by her side. Grandparents are such treasures. Even after they have left us, their memories add a smile to the lips and a joyous tear to the eyes. Surely she is smiling down on you today. Allah grant her Jannah.

    • Saajida

      Thanks 🙂 and Aameen. I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your grandmother. It feels like their absence burns a hole in your heart. May Allah grant your gran a lofty place in jannah, iA. Truly, it is the memories that keep us going! 🙂

  2. Arins

    What a touching post. Not a day goes by when I don’t think of her – I’m sure it’s the same for you. Undoubtedly our lives would have been vastly different if it wasn’t for her sincere love, care, and dedication, in all aspects of our well being (particularly for our aakhirah). May Allah grant her the highest stage in Jannatul Firdous.

    • Saajida

      Aameen 🙂
      Yes, not a day goes by without thinking of her and remembering her character – how strong and determined she was. We were truly blessed and I am grateful for everything she taught us.

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