I’m going to start off with a small disclaimer here: My blog post is not directed at anybody or meant to cause any harm. The below incidents are based only on my personal experience.
Being a slender female from Durban, living in Cape Town, who happens to be Muslim and wears a hijab, I am a victim of quite a few generalisations. These are such automatic and involuntary yet supposedly ‘obvious conclusions’ that I sometimes can’t help but laugh at them.
#1 On Being Indian From Durban: I must be a good cook and my curries taste delicious. I house all the secrets of the best curries in my family recipe book.
The truth: I am a novice cook and I dislike curries in general.
#2 On Being Thin and Tall: I am on a diet and watch my figure. It’s also okay
and not the least bit rude to blatantly criticise my weight in my presence.
The truth: Weight has never been an issue for me and I wouldn’t mind being a small bit rounder at times.
#3 On Being a Writer: My grammar is flawless and my creativity knows no bounds.
The truth: I wish! My grammar is so flawed (thanks Durban English) and creativity only visits me when I least expect it to.
#4 On Being a University Graduate: “Wow, you must be so intelligent.”
The truth: Haha – anyone can get a degree (literally).
#5 On Being a Hijab-clad Muslim: I am very holy and know everything there is to know about Islam.
The truth: As flattered as I am that someone might think I know so much, I actually don’t. I try to follow and practise the little that I know.
#6 On Being a Married Muslim Woman: I already have a few children and probably know a lot about motherhood.
The truth: I’m humbled, but no – I am not a mom neither do I know much about being one.
#7 On Being #5 and #6: “Shame, does your husband always want you to cover your hair?”
The truth: Wearing a hijab is a personal choice of mine, and my husband happens to be okay with that. Thank you for your concern – it’s touching.
That’s pretty much it… And a thank you to those who have made me laugh with these over the years. Are you also a victim of any of them or any other generalisations? Care to share below? I’d really love to know!